to be in sustainable, dynamic relationship I need to be able to love myself in ACTION & love you in action SIMULTANEOUSLY.
I have learned it is harmful for me to stop the first action to engage the second. this becomes the fundamental that shapes the container & fills the space between us. woven into the layers is explicit, irrevocable permission to change.
these layers are solidified by integrity: an understanding that values are integrated into praxis, free from the pressure of “perfection” because no is out here pretending towards that.
gentle compassion is included in the collaboration of these aspects because I accept that my participation in the initiation & maintenance of inside-out love is my response-ability. therefore I don’t require your performance or parenting, though neither does it absolve you from your own participation & reciprocity.
ultimately, I have to decide at all times what space/container is needed to facilitate the successful operation of this fundamental: to be in sustainable, dynamic relationship I need to be able to love myself in ACTION & love you in action SIMULTANEOUSLY.
shout out to my longest friend & to all the friends that remind me of who I am, free of charge & expectation. we all deserve non-transactional love, we all deserve the destruction of a hierarchy of intimacies.