natal mercury retrograde — writing

how to show love to mercury retrograde people: white text on red roses

babies don’t stop being born during Mercury retrograde! that means about three times a year people are being born during Mercury’s underground process. while I’m not here for increasing any hype of frustration (boring!) about retrograde planets, there are distinctions between a planet that’s direct and one that’s not. so how do we honor those living in that distinction?

here are some ways to show love to the Mercury retrograde people in your life:

wait for response. give them more time than you think one should need to process, make up their own mind, and participate. Mercury retrograde operates on the juiciness of retrospection, introspection, and room for readjustments. rushing isn’t cool anymore and never has been for them.
support their backlines, sidelines, and behind the scenes vantage points. not everybody’s brightest contribution comes from being IN the main-streams of communities, projects, work, etc. Mercury retrograde people are so fucking good at absorbing information and circling back later with things everyone else missed.
don’t press them for information, responses, or formulaic forms of engagement. just like transiting Mercury retrograde, loving someone with natal Mercury retrograde is an opportunity to reconfigure our attachments to linearity, manage our expectations of speed, and drop the one-dimensional assumptions.
be willing to feel a little out of their loop sometimes. generosity of time and space allows them to locate themselves and emerge able to inform you. this builds trust. dissonance can happen when they’re expected to proactively assess their every move or operate “ahead of time”.
Mercury retrograde people are skilled at what we’re all invited to practice during these times: reviewing, reflecting, recalibrating, and reorienting. let them be. this may cause more “delays” aka periods of deep integration before forward movement than we’re conditioned to be comfortable with. but are we nonlinear, multidimensional, uncontainable beings or nah?

sending time-warping love to all my fellow babes born during Mercury retrograde! Mercury is currently retrograde in aquarius (January 30-February 20) so send this to your lovers & friends, let them know how to be in new paradigm praxis with you! oxo

to find out if you have Mercury retro in your natal chart look for a little RX symbol next to Mercury on your fave chart generator app/site. you can also book an email reading just to ask me about your Mercury placement and how you can show & receive love there.

this Mercury retrograde, I was digging through a blue bin of old journals & albums to get a photo of my recently passed grandmother for the ancestor altar. I found this photo of me & was struck to see myself so young but with that tired look in my eyes. it was probably actual tiredness but I’ve been thinking about the weight of intergenerational trauma, grief, and joy. I started carrying it consciously so early.

I am fortunate to have had a personal spiritual practice since I was 8. it’s not until this year I realize how I’ve been in communion with my benevolent ancestors long before I knew that’s what those feelings/voices were. intentionality amplifies everything though. I’m increasing it by understanding in new ways that I already am my ancestors & they are me. these are concepts I’ve known & claimed but the recent passing of my grandmother makes it so much more clear within me. any restoration I do for myself goes forward AND back. it must.

I spend a lot of time going 1 step forward, 2 steps back in my processes. not because I miss things but because repetition & reflection reinforces whatever I’m learning/healing/creating. this might be reflected by my natal mercury retrograde, but more-so I like to think of it as being humble enough to go back where most might keep forward & lose depth for the sake of width.

I do it to retrieve myself from origins that are informing what I think is possible for me now. it is my dream-work, my mercury retro work, my birth right. it is ancestral communication, decolonial education, soul restoration.

this is all that’s at the surface willing to be shared right now. maybe take it as a reminder that this is not the only dimension or reality, that who you are is not only what can be seen, & that the acute awareness of our interconnection right now is a glimpse of what’s always present in more realms than this one.

join me for retrieval: a workshop for natal mercury retrograde. basically, a pop-up emoceanal support group for people with natal mercury retrograde. details & registration here.

oxo
Ari