dark moon recommendation


trying to create permanence out of anything (especially who you think you are) is wasted effort.

you’re not doing something wrong if newness makes you nervous. that just means your system is rewiring, shifting, in motion.

you’re not doing something wrong if you have no idea what you’re doing but are trying anyway. that just means you’ve stopped playing prophet & started living with presence.

you’re not doing something wrong if you feel messy, discombobulated, completely foreign to your own damn self. that just means you’re doing what so many live forever afraid to do— surrendering to the reality that change is truth & the truth changes.

the dark moon (the day(s) before a new moon) is for cleansing, contemplation, & intentional resting. skipping ahead to new moon intentions/plans/actions is great yet so much more effective when we take the time to make room for those seeds to grow, to be honest about what might be in the way. taking the time to get to the root of what we want & need is never wasted effort. don’t make it a mission, just make a moment.

virgo is the pattern maker & identifier. ruled by Mercury, virgo works with the concept of fractals. this is the understanding that the macro is made up of the way multitudes of the micro overlap. consider that the themes of your self/life are not anything you’re stuck in but rather, opportunities to practice change in small ways that inevitably begin new patterns. this is how you tell new stories about yourself, your life, & what is possible for all of us.

when the new moon comes, it’s your cue to begin again. do not wait for someone or something to give you a new story or make your dreams come true. those things only happen when you take response-ability for being present to your own life & let enough of the past go to be available to forward movement. unmake up your mind about what you’re capable of or what is inevitable for you. I don’t like to beg but please, my starling, leave room for something different.

if you have been waiting for the stars to align, I must tell you that that is a matter of perspective, maybe even a matter of decision. because the future arrives when you realize it is already here. but, I must also tell you that moments as beautifully poised to support you as this one are infrequent. so abandon your complacency or self-judgement & join the conspiracy of the multiverse to turn your shine into an eternal summer.

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dark moon recommendation

MARCH 6 @ 11:04AM EST | 15 DEGREES

pray to yourself. document the sacred. know you’re going to time travel. forget about staying relevant. love this new moon like the multilayered portal into the past & future it is, tethering yourself to the present with patience. hold onto your most resonant medicine: prioritize it, expand it, deepen it. begin nothing & everything again & again until you emerge on the other side cleansed by the waters of ambiguity that teach you to surrender control. then you can begin for real (aries season got you, don’t worry). because fantasies are delicate at this time. you can fill the spaces between dissolving illusions with them if you wish, just know they may not stay. not here, not now, not yet. try becoming comfortable with people/places/things feeling on pause, feeling far away. it’s okay, you’re okay.

everyone & especially those of us with delicate relationships to our mental/physical health: take your ebb & flow seriously. tend to your needs with the most tangible strategies you can weave together. ask for support. practice the kind of vulnerability that makes you want to run & hide forever afterwards but that allows you to be held in the lingering. honor your edges; don’t be reckless with them no matter how tempting it may be to think that would relieve you from having to hold on anymore. refuse to subscribe to ideas of self-sufficiency or reliance that only serve to separate you further when what we need right now is a more embodied understanding|praxis of interdependence & interconnectivity. most importantly, b o u n d a r i e s.

on Mars in taurus & Saturn in capricorn: the planet of drive & the planet of linearity itself are supporting the New Moon from the realms of earthy sensuality & structure. there is not as much fragility as it may feel like if you’re able to tap into the pleasure of the pragmatic. give yourself food, give yourself sex, give yourself ground. open your hands to receive the fulfillment of taurean needs for desire-rooted pleasure. simultaneously, let Saturn show you the sexy ways of designing a life-framework of practice making progress, no fucks being given to perfection. it’s all back to basics in honor of the future you’re building. let rest be your default, if only for the month.

make them prayers wide & dreams deep to carry you floward…

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dark moon recommendation

New Moon in aquarius | February 4 @4:04PM EST | 15 Degrees

the dark moon is upon us, the draining & cleaning of the tub before we can fill it back up again with clean water. with the astrology right now, facts like some of us don’t have clean water & some of us have an abundance of it feels very present. this comes with the questions of how much an individual can impact the collective & how much the collective is response-able for holding the individual. sit with that as you must. in the grief so intricately intertwined into that inquiry is the generative love we need.

the pro-tip for this dark moon is to not take shit so seriously. it’s in capricorn, along with erratic Mars/Uranus square Pluto & the tension of the Moon passing over serious Saturn, take no bullshit Pluto, & the purging South Node. your trust issues might feel wide awake right now. it’s real & it doesn’t have to be forever. watch your default for when your scarcity/fear/distrust comes up. could you shatter the paradigm by extending into vulnerability? could you have some fucking integrity in the shape of unconditional love for yourself that makes you transparent & trustworthy for others?

in the gaps between our fears & vulnerability or our integrity & self-love are the painful traps of pretending. the thing is, starling, you don’t needa be fearless to be vulnerable. you don’t need to love yourself to have integrity. the magic is that all of these things can exist simultaneously, pulling you in perpendicular direction. it is which pulls you choose, which threads you weave with, that creates the opportunity for growth. for something different, something real, something you.

if you start feeling like shit before the New Moon comes, take a moment to celebrate how much you’ve accomplished/survived/thrived. remember times when you’ve had integrity, self love, fearlessness or vulnerability. think about the pieces of yourself, if any, that you’ve been the most uncompromising & unapologetic with—especially if they’re not the most beautiful & near-perfect pieces. there is power in you, there is a core foundation, there is beauty. celebrate what you can identify, get ecstasy from what you can now recognize.

trust yourself & yes, I’m always saying this but I really fucking mean it. you don’t got nobody but you to be managing. and being that response-able with your energy requires that you trust yourself enough to know what is needed when & that you’ll figure out the rest. that it’s okay to not know. that right now is not tomorrow & that this moment is forever & that yesterday never left the future.

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